The Art of Discipline, Volume Two

The Art of Discipline Volume Two: A Pictorial History of the Smacked Bottom has arrived. A gift from “Mike” The Spanko Poet. Absolutely beautiful. I particularly like the artwork by Sardax, see below.

A quiet Sunday afternoon for me. Replying to emails, drinking tea (gotta love that Heath Ceramics teapot) and listening to Djivan Gasparyan, because the duduk is my favorite musical instrument.

P.S. I just want to say thank you to everyone who reached out to me directly to share their thoughts and offer encouragement about my Married to a vanilla post. I am still pondering whether or not I want to write a more insightful blog about the dynamics of vanilla/spanko relationships.

Smiles and Spanks,

Married to a vanilla.

I’ve never kept the fact that I am married to a vanilla a secret. I didn’t think I needed to. I honestly didn’t think that it mattered that much, but as it turns out people are very curious…

Does your spouse know you are a spanko? When did you tell them you were a spanko? Your spouse really allows you to do this? Does you being a spanko cause issues in your marriage? Does your spouse spank you? Do you spank your spouse? Do you have a ‘normal’ sex life? How long have you and your spouse been together? Do you think you will regret not marrying a spanko? Would you give up spanking if your spouse asked you to? Do you have an open marriage? Do you need your spouse’s permission to participate in spanking play?


I have been wanting to write about the topic of vanilla/spanko relationships for a while, because the different viewpoints are interesting to me. Now I can’t decide if it is even worth it. I have been told that my marriage isn’t “serious” because we do not share a fascination with spanking. It has been implied that I am not a committed spanko because I married a vanilla.

On one hand, I think it is important for people to know that vanilla/spanko relationships are not always a formula for disaster. On the other hand, I don’t like having to defend myself for being in love with my spouse, who happens to be vanilla.

If it works, it works. That’s all.

Smiles and Spanks,