I’ve never kept the fact that I am married to a vanilla a secret. I didn’t think I needed to. I honestly didn’t think that it mattered that much, but as it turns out people are very curious…
Does your spouse know you are a spanko? When did you tell them you were a spanko? Your spouse really allows you to do this? Does you being a spanko cause issues in your marriage? Does your spouse spank you? Do you spank your spouse? Do you have a ‘normal’ sex life? How long have you and your spouse been together? Do you think you will regret not marrying a spanko? Would you give up spanking if your spouse asked you to? Do you have an open marriage? Do you need your spouse’s permission to participate in spanking play?
I have been wanting to write about the topic of vanilla/spanko relationships for a while, because the different viewpoints are interesting to me. Now I can’t decide if it is even worth it. I have been told that my marriage isn’t “serious” because we do not share a fascination with spanking. It has been implied that I am not a committed spanko because I married a vanilla.
On one hand, I think it is important for people to know that vanilla/spanko relationships are not always a formula for disaster. On the other hand, I don’t like having to defend myself for being in love with my spouse, who happens to be vanilla.
If it works, it works. That’s all.
Smiles and Spanks, NaturallyGin.com