The Art of Discipline, Volume Two

The Art of Discipline Volume Two: A Pictorial History of the Smacked Bottom has arrived. A gift from “Mike” The Spanko Poet. Absolutely beautiful. I particularly like the artwork by Sardax, see below.

A quiet Sunday afternoon for me. Replying to emails, drinking tea (gotta love that Heath Ceramics teapot) and listening to Djivan Gasparyan, because the duduk is my favorite musical instrument.

P.S. I just want to say thank you to everyone who reached out to me directly to share their thoughts and offer encouragement about my Married to a vanilla post. I am still pondering whether or not I want to write a more insightful blog about the dynamics of vanilla/spanko relationships.

Smiles and Spanks,

Married to a vanilla.

I’ve never kept the fact that I am married to a vanilla a secret. I didn’t think I needed to. I honestly didn’t think that it mattered that much, but as it turns out people are very curious…

Does your spouse know you are a spanko? When did you tell them you were a spanko? Your spouse really allows you to do this? Does you being a spanko cause issues in your marriage? Does your spouse spank you? Do you spank your spouse? Do you have a ‘normal’ sex life? How long have you and your spouse been together? Do you think you will regret not marrying a spanko? Would you give up spanking if your spouse asked you to? Do you have an open marriage? Do you need your spouse’s permission to participate in spanking play?


I have been wanting to write about the topic of vanilla/spanko relationships for a while, because the different viewpoints are interesting to me. Now I can’t decide if it is even worth it. I have been told that my marriage isn’t “serious” because we do not share a fascination with spanking. It has been implied that I am not a committed spanko because I married a vanilla.

On one hand, I think it is important for people to know that vanilla/spanko relationships are not always a formula for disaster. On the other hand, I don’t like having to defend myself for being in love with my spouse, who happens to be vanilla.

If it works, it works. That’s all.

Smiles and Spanks,

R & Vix

I came across R & Vix on SpankingTube, which led me to their FetLife page, which then led me to messaging them to ask permission to share their content here. I love their chemistry and obvious connection within and outside of spanking.

You can see their videos here on SpankingTube. Beach Bum Spanked is my favorite, because I have a thing for outdoor spankings. Thank you R & Vix for letting me share!

“Our main thing is spanking. We both love every aspect of it, and there is never a day that goes by without some form of spanking involved! There is something about it that cannot be fully put into words, but it is wonderful to see, hear and feel. There is a magic involved with a spanking and when you find someone who means everything to you and you get to share these moments with them…. well you just can’t match it!” – R & Vix

Smiles and Spanks,